Trenutno bi zlata ribica sposobna izpolnjevanja želja, kot smo je bili vajeni iz pravljic v zgodnjem otroštvu, pri meni utrpela hudo brezdelje. Čas bi ji tako krajšala le ena, zaradi spleta okoliščin zelo težko uresničljiva želja, in sicer, da bi me nagradila z urico sproščenega klepeta ob kavici, s specifično zalo, mlado damo, da jo tako končno prepričam v varnost, toplino in pristnost mojega zavetja, kjer bi me potem s kraljevanjem mojemu vsakdanu, razveseljevala in napajala s pristnostjo svoje ženskosti.
Nasploh je življenje lažje, ko človek končno sprejme nepopolnost vsakdana, in skoči iz objema usode in skrajno destruktivnega samopomilovanja, ter si po svoji volji začrta novo pot v svetlejšo prihodnost. Res da zavoljo površnosti prvega vtisa, plitkosti današnjih odnosov in samozavedanja, nepazljivemu očesu, razen manjše razlike v pristopu, ni zaznati večjih sprememb, vendar lahko tudi iz lastnih (zaenkrat še bolj skromnih) izkušenj povem, da je ta opazka vse prej kot zanemarljiva. Še več, lahko bi se celo reklo, da je pristop “vse”. Način kako se spoprimeš z življenjem, ti v hipu začrta tvoj uspeh in zadovoljstvo v tvoji prihodnosti. Lahko se podaš na pot bojevnika, ali pa v samopomilovanju predaš t.i. usodi. Vsakdo je usposobljen tako za prvo kot tudi drugo pot, vendar se med njima izrazi bistvena razlika: za sledenje prvemu smerokazu je potrebno ogromno energije, še več volje in pa skoraj nenaravna želja. Vsekakor to ni izbira manjšega odpora, in pohajkovanje po coni udobja ni njen luksuz. Potrebno je namreč njeno konstantno raztezanje, neutrudno razkrivanje misterijev lastne osebnosti in odpovedovanje hipnim pregreham. In nagrada - živeti človeka vredno življenje. Ne polbudno tavanje med množico zablode in samopomilovanja, ampak zavedanje trenutka, užitek in zadovoljstvo ob izpolnjevanju pravih, zastavljenih si ciljev, ustvarjanje lastnih in občudovanje obstoječih čudežev, s katerimi nas je obdarila mati narava. Popolnoma samoumevno pa ti postane tudi sprejemanje soljudi, kakršni so v svojem bistvu - kjer prekipevanju njihove dobrote in dobrih namenov ni videti konca. In ko tvoj um enkrat uzre to obzorje, poti nazaj ni več. Ostane le brezkončno udejstvovanje sreče in zadovoljstva.
P.S. (za tisto “specifično kraljično”):
Punca ne poznam te. Prav imaš. Vendar pa točno vem, kdaj zrem v oči človeku, katerega družbe bi si želel na poti skozi življenje. Prijatelja, mogoče celo intimna, ali pač tujca. Življenje je tvoje, tako tudi odločitev 
Why is it so damn important to you to get good with women?
Every piece of art needs its admirer, that gives real value to it. I am searching for my piece of art, and I am willing to be the best admirer she has ever met.
As far as I know, I am in love with the feminine. Not that its presence is the main pursue I lead my life to, but one of the biggest for sure. But my goals are even higher. Someday (soon:) I want to have a woman by my side, from which every cell will be relaxed in my presence, every cell expressing her core femininity, and her every cell will be saturated with pleasure, and with her, I want to experience true and pure intimacy, and take it even higher: to spiritual planes and beyond.
I want a life companion, I will know better than myself. I want to be the one she will trust her most embarrassing secrets to, the one of which only a thought will never fail turning her on, and at the same time, the one able providing her with pleasures, far beyond those she is already familiar with.
All this will be hard, I know, but I am also sure, I am capable turning my words into reality!
What makes you happy?
Seeing others benefit from my service, my teachings, pursuing my personal goals, being around lively and radiant women, searching for a deeper meaning in things, exploring the depths of my personality, playing (beach) volleyball, being surrounded with the beauties of nature.
Describe in as much detail as you can the life you want for yourself one year from now, and ten years from now.
Nothing special. I have a nice girlfriend, doing web design and some other PC maintenance/repair tasks for some extra money, study at the Faculty of Computer and Information sciences at the University of Ljubljana (final two semesters before diploma), play (beach)volleyball, widening my knowledge of web design, Linux, relationships, women, success practices, and “life wisdom”, exploring the depths of my personality…
I live in the countryside in a simple Eco-friendly house, married to a tall, long-haired beauty, that will bless me with three smart and beautiful children (the second is already on the way:). I own a successful IT company making handsome profits, and I have successfully developed many other sources of income. Beside my family, I dedicate my free time also to (beach) volleyball with my friends, and I share my wisdom and help others through various seminars and public talks.
When you learn about some subject, you gradually gain understanding over it. Repetition of those ideas, condition your subconsciousness, so that you have faith in yourself, when manifesting your ideas, that results will be well aligned with the idea as “received”. If something goes wrong, you search for the cause of the deviation within the cycle described and so you do not bother yourself with searching it in the uncontrollable surrounding environment. All this gives you confidence with your actions and relaxed body state, which naturally leads to health and well-being.
Vice versa, ignorance over some subject can give you nothing but doubt and worry, when thinking about it. Constant repetition of this feelings conditions your subconsciousness with fear, and that emotion magnified, manifests through your body as anxiety. And since you do not understand the process through which your ideas get lost or manifest different as wished, you usually search causes in outer environment, which is an unsuccessful quest from its very beginning.
And when the manifested results are the same as those imagined in your mind, you have mastered the “creative process”. You have mastered an efficient use of an unlimited source of creation!
For more detailed explanation and presentation of this idea, you should watch Bob Proctor’s Born rich seminar, or read his You were born rich e-book, which can be downloaded free of charge from here.
If you want to sell, you have to create a demand. And the best recipe to do that, is to create an artificial role model of perfection and to advertise it to the potential customers, pointing out their imperfections compared to created model. Naivety of people will take care for the success story of the selling product, so the seller’s mission is completed. No big deal you say, but since I like to complicate things a little bit, I would really like to introduce you to a new point of view.
The practice described above is far more devastating as it seems, when you first look at it. The vast majority of advertisers plays on this same effect, which is by default gradually, but constantly lowering consumers self-esteem. The lower it gets the better consumers they have raised. And without self esteem, it is practically impossible to cultivate sincere and well fundamented self-confidence and therefore, the person is incapable of independent functionality, which should be a primary demand for every adult and mature person.
Maybe adults are more immune to such influences, but our children have not yet developed those same filters. A child’s mind has no proper defense system. Everything in perception of his senses, goes directly to their mind. And before they realize it, they will have this deep rooted in their habits and develop a weak self-worth perception. Furthermore, because we become what we think of most, they have everything but a bright future ahead of them.
Therefore you should always keep an eye over your child’s development of self-perception and make sure he knows, he is perfect. In every way. Not speaking of perfectionism, but a healthy stance towards life and himself, that will not get him easily off track, if he won’t get all those toys advertised on TV or won’t be as smart as those kids in cheap Hollywood movies. Every person is special. That specialty only needs to be found!
The medium we all agree upon to be the “numerical evaluation” of our services provided to others. By itself, it has no other value than the value of the service we are justified to demand from others. So next time you lack of money, repair this problem at its very root. Apart of cheats an frauds some people are capable and you should be aware of, for theirs successful prevention, you should concentrate on your service provided. Does it lack in quality or maybe the market is overly saturated with its providers? Maybe the demand for your service is to weak?
So what should you do? You should always orient yourself to do the work you are really good at. That provides you with satisfaction needed, that will stimulate and motivate you for constant improvement in the quality of your service. The customer’s satisfaction should be one of your primary goals in the work you do, as long as it stays in the frames of your integrity and resonates with your personal values. And the increasing quality also increases the “net worth” of your service. Sure there is an option of an increased-value provision of your service by pioneering in something, but the more common practice is a mastery in the craft you got yourself into. There are a lot of practitioners alike, but only a few really master it. But the mastery requires hard work and a lot of training. Strong enough filters, especially for today’s lifestyle of immediate satisfaction, to cause the failure of the vast majority achieving this goal. But without resistance there is no appreciation for the knowledge and experiences gathered. The bigger the barrier, the greater the satisfaction after its completion. Challenges make life attractive and interesting. Without them it would be dull and boring.
To make it short, choose yourself to do something you really enjoy and are good at. Strive to constant improvement of the quality of your service. And then the money should come naturally.
On my friend’s recommendation, I have recently watched two very good movies: Before sunrise (1995) and its successor, Before sunset (2004). A modern love story so down to earth, it is perfect, no matter what angle you choose for your observation.
These movies provides us with an example of a relationship so sincere,so connected and so in the moment, it was taking place, that it should represent the core standard for all others. The main characters Jesse and Celine faced some minor rejections in their early childhood, and that was probably the cause for them to develop quite strong behavioral independence and to take critical distance from all the daily “shit” all others were unconsciously sucking into themselves in the process of an early “socialization”. Despite some minor faults, they stayed clear at and conscious of their deepest core, and therefore were able to connect in the manner we are probably all striving for. Only they mattered and they were well aware of that, and since they needn’t have to be aware of the ideals and the expectations, the society falsely conditions us with, they had all the time available to enjoy the moment, sense the attraction that warmed their eager hearts, and explore each other’s depths. Even so, the night (the only one they had together) was very simple and as some would say “mediocre”, without needless Hollywood alike inserts, that usually make us feel miserable, because real life can never fulfill the expectations, they fill us with, they knew how to amuse themselves. They were able to create themselves an unforgettable experience , they have had clear an detailed memory of, even nine years after, when they re-met.
A perfect experience, worth striving for in your life. But the demand needed in return is huge - alignment with your true self, your primal core. So there’s still a lot of work ahead of me, but I will reach it, sooner or later 
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P.S.: The only thing I was displeased with, was Jesse’s fear of responsibility. I believe it is one of the masculinity’s essentials, so should be well taken in account. Without it, you can’t be a leader of your own life. You will always be some kind of a follower.
What do you mean by our? Your faith should be your most intimate beliefs, not something you should let others to decide upon. It is either you allow it or not. What is the point of letting others to decide for you what should you believe and what you shouldn’t, what values should you have, and what behavior should you treat as sinful. That is up to you, but do not ignore the responsibility that comes with. I do not care who you are: a Muslim, a Christian, a Jew, an atheist or whatever, as long as you know why you take yourself as such. Just do not let yourself fall into believing into something just out of habit or tradition. If you have no real reason for how your beliefs are, you should probably change them. Because I doubt those are really yours.
Otherwise, happy Easter to everyone!
They get better with wisdom and experiences accumulated. Logic tells us that the older the man is the more mature he should be. But less and less that could stand for a rule nowadays, because it isn’t even rare to find thirty and more year-old mama’s boys among us. So it is really hard to understand those girls on dating service websites setting the age of men they’re searching for, few years older at least. Guess what will that get you: immature father’s friend incapable dealing with women of his own age, therefore searching for adventure with an inexperienced girl. Is that really what you are dreaming about? When you contact such a girl, their pattern gets quickly revealed through some short conversations. Naive, egoistic, “mature” (yeah, right) girls, with to much artificially based confidence. Seems like a perfect match There are exceptions I know, but as a very small minority opposing this trend.
If you fell in love with a much younger/older guy/girl that is ok, but for god’s sake don’t search your partner within some imagined, artificial criteria with no real basis. Search for a partner you really like and you know, you will get along with well, not for some image your closest peers or the rest of the society surrounding you, have set up for you. It is your life, so claim this right for yourself!
As for myself, I am not perfect, I know that. But I also know I will strive for excellence on all areas of my interest, as long as I live. Still way better than those wanna be adults, living in their own world of imagined superiority to others and denying all their weaknesses they have failed at. Manage your weaknesses and develop your strengths. But do not deny any part of yourself.
It is one of the most disrespectful of all human “virtues” in my criteria. Say no if you mean no, and say yes if you mean yes, but do not, I repeat do not ignore the person you are dealing with. Use this act in case only, when the person addressed really doesn’t want to deal with the consequences she got into, and despite your previous decisive no’s, still bothers you with her childish and immature behavior. Otherwise this act used only shows weakness of your character and your attachment to the outcome. I still believe that most people are quite stable in their behavior and therefore, should be treated as such. If someone isn’t capable dealing with the responsibilities and consequences he got into, that is his own problem, not yours, so don’t let wussies you crush into now and then compromise your behavior, and change the pattern you relate to others to a disrespectful one. Every person deserves to be treated as a mature one, that is your duty as one of such, and it is their problem if they are not capable meeting the standards the society requires of them.
But beware of double bonding messages. With decisive no’s I mean no’s you express as such with both, your body and your soul. Because wishing and wanting something and saying the opposite only confuses the person you interact with. Subliminal messages you radiate with your body are way more powerful than the words you say. So next time you want something and say the opposite (maybe for the sake of your reputation or anything similar, or because you think it is right that way, but you’re not so sure deep inside), you should review your goals and purpose you set for yourself in your life, because desires change, so you will be able this way again to gradually synchronize your actions with your deepest core, which will resonate you into general well-being.
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