Because I was to consistent with my values, I am now destined to die alone or in the company of a woman no one else wanted.
Since I was always too sincere to hook up with a woman just to have some fun and experience something new I am now 23 and alone. The possibility that something might have developed during so called “relationship” did not seduced me, so I have waited for someone that could be “the one” to share my moments with. And believe me or not, I am pretty sure I have found her. But she has got a boyfriend, so now what?
If there are obvious signs that she is in a serious relationship I have no interest to interfere, because I could not accomplish anything positive. So those ones are out. But what about the girls that are still undecided? They might have been in relationship cause of various reasons. It may be peer pressure, or feeling of security, maybe they just gave it a try to see what happens, or they finished with someone just out of habit? How to convince them, that you are the one they should spend time with from now on? Or a better question: How to show them that it is you they are looking for?
Since I am quite confident with myself and believe that I am a great person to hang with, I went to “battle” as myself, sincere as always. But a great problem confronted me. It is the prejudices, that society conditioned us with. So what happened?
If I was …
SINCERE - “I don’t believe him. There are no sincere people out there today. Not with a little help from some alcohol. He must be faking it.”
PERSISTENT - “He must be a stalker or some desperate lost case that would do anything, just to get it some. Nobody with healthy consciousness would come back multiple times without getting any treat.”
HAD VISION, SPECIFIED LIFE GOALS - “He isn’t sane. He’s a careerist and he wouldn’t take much time for me and his children. He would be married with his job.”
IN LOVE WITH THE FEMININE - “Guys aren’t like that. He must be lying. Guys just want senseless fuck (sometimes, but not always:) ). Maybe only those romantic lovers, but they aren’t capable to enjoy with one woman only, so they are inappropriate for long-term relationship.”
LOOKING WAY MORE TIME IN HER EYES THAN IN HER BREASTS, ACTUALLY PAYED ATTENTION TO WHAT SHE IS SAYING - “It’s impossible. He is bullshiting me. Men aren’t programmed that way. He’s just a good actor.”
If you reread all the qualities again, aren’t these the qualities most women are looking for? Why such a response then? How to express them, so they could be understood appropriately?
Once again, I despise prejudices. They make people building their own truth, without even letting themselves to get known with the real one. So how can you experience the world around you at its fullest if you are traveling around in the mental cage you built for yourself? You will miss everything.
Like one girl last night. She might have missed love of her life. Because she built such cage and didn’t make even a step away from her mis believes. If she only knew what she had missed. Because I am a men for quality, honest, long-term relationship, I am in love with the feminine, but still looking for one woman only, I am a man with vision, but family still comes first, and I am a man of persistence, but because of nothing else than a purpose I have found, a goal that needs to be reached and a wish that needs to be fulfilled. I only wish it would turn out better, but even so it was well worth of all the effort invested. Because she is gorgeous and she is well qualified for the one I am looking for. But I did what I could and can’t do anything else, even if I want it so much. It looks like I will have to continue my search. Sadly, but that is life.
P.S. (don’t have to read this if you’re not the girl I am writing about:) )
If you ever change your mind, know that I would be honored to have you in my life, so do not hesitate contacting me. We would get along perfectly;) as soon as you loosen your shield a little bit. I don’t bite.
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