How do you attach?

Someone told me recently, what do I know, since I do not attach to anything, but as you can guess, this is very far from truth (I mean about attaching ).
Since I believe the only criticism worth taking in account is only a well argumented one, I would like to point out why I disagree with this statement an why I take a response like that as a childish and irresponsible one.

I aim my life to three main goals:

1. Extraordinary relationship
2. To be financially independent at the age of 50
3. Excellent mental and physical condition

The detailed goals and purposes are a bit more personal, but they can all well relate to the pointers mentioned above. For example, I would like to do my best at serving others, making our living more enjoyable and enjoy at everything I am good at, and I don’t believe that if I failed at realizing this goals would do anything good to my mental condition.

To get me started, the first thing I needed to do in my way to fulfillment, was to take responsibility for every action I make. It isn’t as easy as you would think, since people today are very fond of “wishful thinking.” They expect that something will just happen out of thin air or by hand of someone other.

The second action needed to be taken was change in my attitude towards my life. There is no difference in brain energy consumption, since it has to be active anyway (with most people I hope ), but there is a huge difference whether you approach your actions constructively or destructively. It’s all about getting the results or moaning all the time about the state you’re currently in. With attitude change, automatically changes the way you interact with your surroundings; you no more react to the situation you’re in, but rather respond to it in proper manner. That is the only way you can deliberately do something.

The next thing I was up to change, was to train my courage, to be able to step out of my comfort zone more often. At first this task was rather unpleasant, but then it became a challenge of testing your character strength, you can easily become addicted to. As Helen Keller said, security is only a superstition and it doesn’t exist in nature. So if you’re interested in growth of your character and improving your life’s quality, it’s essential to get used to risk-taking.

But all the factors described above lose their meaning if you lack persistence. It is essential developing this skill if you ever want to live your life at fullest, if you ever want your deepest dreams to become a part of your reality. So never give up on yourself. Who else will make beautiful things happen in your life if not yourself?

To conclude, I believe that true attachment only takes place when you give your total focus to something and not when your focus is dispersed over countless of your life’s interests. I believe that moaning over everything you like not going aligned with your interests, is a kind of phony dramatizing and useless overreacting. I believe that in relationships, quality is far more important than quantity, which only blinds you from true interests and purposes. So I find it much better to guide my main focus among the things I really like and leave to other things only the effort they essentially need for their sustaining and not overly worry about them. With full focus and amount of effort needed, you build real attachments, attachments worth striving for in your life.